Dating advice no chemistry
I was hoping he would want me back some time later when another guy was interested in me.When he didn't come rushing after me (he eventually dropped out of college and joined a commune, making him an unmarriable companion for me) I threw my emotions aside and logically moved on to a stable, committed relationship with this new person.
So why do we have that heart-fluttering reaction with some people and not others?
After a day or two of texting, I couldn’t stop myself. We flirted via text, and set up another meeting ASAP, even though Sparks was also dating someone before he has boarded that crazy flight with me. Security picked me up from the airport, and I truly felt I could not lead him on after experiencing such intense chemistry with Sparks—something I’d never felt with my boyfriend.
Whereas Sparks and I had instantly connected, since we were into all the same things—health, fitness, adventures, and silly sense of humor about life—Security and I just seemed worlds away, as stable as our relationship was.
Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.
I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.
Saturday afternoon, you’ve probably talked about this very topic: should you go after that guy with whom you feel amazing chemistry, or should you choose the stable, loyal, forever-there-for-you boyfriend?